The bystander effect is a social phenomena in which an individual is less likely to help a person in need when others are around. The bystander effect is believed to be driven by the thought that somebody else will handle the situation, a thought process that has lead to some deadly results in the past. No matter how potentially threatening a situation, and no matter how heroic an individual is, there will be a time when everybody succumbs to this behavior. I don’t think a person can be labeled as a bad person by not acting on a situation, or by not calling for help, but I believe the main reason the bystander effect happens is because of the possibility that a potential hero could be wrong. I have personally witnessed some situations that seemed more serious than they actually were, such as play fighting, and for the most part my first action is to observe the event rather than to intervene, or call for help. The bystander effect is basically 10 people taking the same stance on a situation and expecting another to call rather than to be labeled as a boy crying wolf. Public agencies have been running ad campaigns in an effort to quell the fire that is the bystander effect, but I think they need to first address the fact that there is no penalty for “overreacting,” so people should not fear any consequences. Nobody wants to call the authorities just to be told they are wrong about a situation, but if they can comprehend that they don’t need to fully understand a situation before calling for help, then many of the tragedies tied to the bystander effect will easily be averted.
Fantasy Football is a billion dollar enterprise, that may actually be more popular than the actual sport itself. In fantasy football, fans are asked to draft individual players from various teams, and build a team that can outperform their competition. The business of fantasy football has become huge these days, with several companies offering fantasy coaches millions of dollars to pick the right team, but in my opinion fantasy football is hurting the game. I am a big fan of fantasy football, and I understand that the NFL will continue to thrive because of it, but fantasy football has created a new generation of football viewers, who don’t care about teams or standings, all they care about is an individual’s stat line. In a sense it doesn’t seem too terrible for the league if people are watching at higher rates, but with the high interest in stats comes much lower interest in merchandise and actual game attendance. Fans go to games to watch their favorite teams play, so when fans begin rooting for players only, the lines of fandom begin to blur. I am a Giants fan, so I do get upset when I see other fans of my team rooting for rival players but I guess that is just the way of the future. Fantasy football is definitely here to stay, and though it is killing the way of the fan, I’m sure the NFL will gladly continue to capitalize on the money that is coming in and punch the fantasy football revolution.
Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.
Peace is a period of harmony or accord between social groups and countries. Throughout the history of man, there are actually very few if any short periods of peace. Albert Einstein’s quote hits on the major issue that hinders peacefulness, that is the use of force to try and foster peace. Peace is something that everyone on earth is searching for, but we are forgetting one of the major necessities for peace. In a war for peace, as oxymoronic a term as that is, there is no chance for understanding because way too much force is used, and in protests many fight to be understood but are met with undue force. Humans need to work better to understand one another, understanding does not mean agreeing with everything others do or say, understanding is taking time to listen to the concerns of others before drawing conclusions. In order for peace to be attained people must put aside their differences and get to know their adversary, perhaps we are all more similar than we think and peace is only a long talk away.
Read, read, read. Read everything — trash, classics, good and bad, and see how they do it. Just like a carpenter who works as an apprentice and studies the master. Read! You’ll absorb it. Then write. If it’s good, you’ll find out. If it’s not, throw it out of the window.
– William Faulkner
One of the most important aspects of writing or mastering any skill, is to study the works of those who have already gone before you. If you want to be a great film maker, then you need to immerse yourself into film, so you can become a walking encyclopedia on the topic. Many people these days want to reach success all on their own, they feel as though they have to rely fully on their own talents and make their own mistakes, while forgetting they have the entire history of mistakes made by mankind at their disposal. In this quote Faulkner is basically saying study everything available in order to hone your craft, you should even be able to use terrible works in your pursuit for perfection, as they can only help you recognize what is actually worth while. This quote should be a motto to anybody who wants to succeed, you can not build anything without a plan, and an example can only strengthen the final product.
Today, as I was tossing around a baseball with my younger brother, we decided to take a break to enjoy the park. After a while of sitting and enjoying the serenity my brother told me he doesn’t exactly understand how people have one place of relaxation. I am one of these people who has a hard time relaxing so, I fully agreed with his query, but sitting on that grass and just resting made me realize that that park is my “place of relaxation.” I actually had nothing to think about or worry about other that catching the ball when it was thrown my way, it was quite peaceful. I understand what he meant by one place of relaxation, because for me, a place of relaxation is conditional. The same park we sat in this afternoon, could be filled with barbecues and loud birthday parties in a week’s time, so for places of relaxation it must fit what is needed at a specific moment. Some people love to fly fish in a quiet stream, and others may enjoy a loud concert, but both individuals have their place of rest, and that is the key to relaxation. I know that I won’t be able to always have a peaceful park to sit in and listen to birds chirping, but I now know that any time I can find this place, I have found relaxation.
Yesterday I was having a little debate with a friend about the role physicality plays in attraction with men and women. My friend was firmly in the camp that men are always physically motivated when searching for a mate, while women are exclusively emotionally motivated. Before I get into my rebuttal to that claim, I must state that this friend of mine is also a male, so I was somewhat shocked that he wouldn’t give his own kind the benefit of the doubt. I understand that throughout history men have been seen as only motivated by what they see, but as times have changed I have to argue that women are almost just as physically motivated as men when it comes to looking for a partner or mate. I have several female friends who have openly mused about the height and appearance of their optimal mate, and while that may not be as sexual in nature as what men dream about, I feel it is just as relevant to the argument that women care about what they see. There is a common phrase that states “sex sells,” and while I understand that many commercials and movies geared towards men prod at that factor of the male psyche, women are also the target of many sexually based advertisements. For every hooters commercial geared towards men, we have a superhero movie in which the male protagonist is inexplicably shown partially nude. The fact of the matter is that human beings, as a whole, are drawn to things and people based on what they see. With the advent of gender equality it is no shock that many women are just as open to express their sexuality as men have seemingly always been, and I feel as though that point on its own makes my argument. Both men and women are largely driven by sight, and while many may believe that women are solely drive by emotion, I think they are somewhat misinformed and their data is completely outdated.
Today is one of those days that I feel like just resting, it may be due to my activities from yesterday, but I am completely drained. It is weird that at times it can be hard to distinguish between being lazy and being tired, both feelings are similar, but both are mentally contended with differently. I would like to say that I am tired since I did have a busy day and I don’t exactly have anything notable to do today, but tiredness could be considered a form of laziness if I have tasks that need to be completed eventually. I guess my feelings today go back to the fact that I have a difficult time relaxing, so if I have task that need completion and I am in a location where I can complete these tasks, I would rather not leave them undone. Laziness is the unwillingness to do work or expend energy, and tiredness is the lack of energy, while I have an abundance of mental energy at the moment, physically I am drained. I guess I can conclude that I am just tired, so instead of worrying about what I could be doing, I will relax and rest up for a more productive day tomorrow.
Why are people so quick to blame others for their actions? Why is it so often that individuals deflect blame? Is it possible that some are more blamable than others? I like to go by a way of life in which I actively make sure I do not blame others for the outcomes of my actions. I try not to get into self blame so I take my actions at face value, when I do something regrettable I find a way to atone for it and I move on, there is really no reason to find anyone to blame when I acknowledge what I’ve done wrong and fix it. I like to think that if I had a time machine and the ability to change events, I would change my choices or actions rather than look to interfere with another individual. Even though I try not to blame others, I can’t change the world on my own, and everyone seems to have a method and reason for blaming others. Blame is actually a psychological function that basically allows the blamer to maintain a sense of superiority over the person they are blaming. In large companies a top executive almost never gets fired for their own faux pas, they just shift the blame to their subordinates and take corrective action upon the wrong person. I don’t think it’s possible for a person to be more blamable than another, but there are reasons why people tend to accept a disproportionate amount of blame. The idea of being blamed or blaming others essentially comes down to self confidence. In my opinion it takes confidence to admit a mistake and make the necessary changes to remedy the situation, blame does nothing to fix a situation, and in passing blame the blamer just adds confusion to a problem that could have been easily corrected.
How did it get so late so soon?
– Dr. Seuss
Time is a topic that I could probably ramble on about forever, but for the sake of sanity and time itself, I will limit this posting to merely one of times many aspects. If you have ever had fun at any point in your life, you will have noticed how quickly time passes, it is almost as if time itself is sped up by enjoyment. On the other hand, time seems to be stretched and slowed in times of peril or turmoil. It is interesting that time is the same for everyone, no matter how it is calculated, but time is still relative to the individual in the moment. A practical example of the relativity of time can be seen in a car accident, for an observer a car can spin out in an instant and three seconds will seem as such, but for an individual in the car it will feel like slow motion, and three seconds can seem much longer. I am always reminded of the theory of relativity when I think about time, more precisely time dilation, time dilation basically explains how a change in time recorded by two observers for the same event can differ, based on their relative movement. While time dilation is pretty advanced and won’t be observed while driving a car, it does help explain the relativity of time itself. I believe time dilation can be observed in the human brain, our thoughts move extremely fast, and it is not completely absurd to say two people can experience time differently while sitting in the same room. Overall the best way to look at time is as an object that is always moving. Make the most of time, because no matter how it is being perceived, it is finite to those in each moment.
The reason I write this blog is to keep my brain from dying so to speak. In my opinion there are three ways to keep your mind sharp, reading, writing, and mathematics. As you may have noticed from reading this blog, I have a lot of ideas, too many to count, this blog is basically a written translation of my thoughts. I have found that coming up with different topics everyday is harder than I realized, while I do have enough ideas in mind to write about, it would be majorly unwise to post my unfiltered thoughts. Throughout the year as I continue to post on this page I may post some editorials, some reviews, and even videos. I will definitely end up returning to the more interesting topics, most likely due to a change in my views of a subject, or newly found data, so this blog should probably be named “365 Posts” rather than topics. I hope you will follow along throughout the year, and join me as I write about random musings. I realize this should have been my first post, but I didn’t really think about it until I got this far. I am a creative writer and I just wanted to give myself a reason to write everyday. I hope in reading this blog you are enriched in some way, anyhow, thanks for reading.