A bad mood can ruin a day, but it doesn’t have to control of your day. Far too many people let a bad mood take hold of their life when they don’t necessarily have to succumb to the stress of their mood. A few days ago a person who is close to me did something that made me very upset, and I have to admit, those actions put me in quite a bad mood. While what this individual did was annoying, I have to realize that these things happen, and our relationship is not any different, no matter how upset I became. Whenever an individual is wronged, if the transgression is not immediately addressed, they may end up in a bad mood, and that is exactly what happened in my case. I have since been able to resolve this issue, but aside from the actual wrong, a bad mood must be dealt with appropriately. There are times when a bad mood is not dependent an the actions of others, and for times like that, it is best to find a way to deal with it. Instead of allowing a bad mood to drive your day, many things can be done to alleviate the stress. Some people exercise, some go fishing, whatever can be done in lieu of being unhappy is a better option. A bad mood does not need to ruin a day, once you are able to find a task or hobby that can brighten your mood, any daily issues will seem as small inconveniences.
As expected, the NFL season opener was an offensive masterpiece, well at least for the New England Patriots. Tom Brady threw for 4 touchdowns as I predicted, but my prognostication of a Steelers win was incorrect. This weekend has been quite busy for me, due to it being wedding season apparently, so today while I have a bit of time, I would simply like to give my picks for week one of this year’s NFL action. The NFL is back and in full swing, this Sunday there will finally be a full slate of NFL games, and the fun will continue for the rest of the year. I will start my picks with the Packers beating the Bears by a wide margin, Aaron Rodgers is too good for the depleted Bears defense. The Chiefs will beat the Texans in a low scoring, possibly boring game. The Jets will will manage to handle the much weaker Browns in another low scoring matchup. The Colts will beat the Bills, but the game will be much closer than many expect. I’m picking the Dolphins over the Redskins, the Panthers over the Jaguars, and the Lions over the Chargers. The ever powerful Seahawks will have no trouble defeating the Rams, as their is a huge disparity in their offensive talent, and the Cardinals will defeat the Saints in what looks to be a close matchup. The Buccaneers will defeat the Titans, in a highly anticipated first meeting of rookie quarterbacks, I expect both of the league’s newest additions to play in a manner that proves they deserve to play at this level of football. I have the Raiders winning over the Bengals in a slight upset, and the Broncos beating the Ravens. In the prime time matchups we will see three great games, the first being my New York Giants facing the dreaded Dallas Cowboys, I am expecting the Giants to win in an extremely close and exciting game. As for the Monday night games, I have the Falcons beating the Eagles in a surprise blowout, and the Vikings defeating the 49ers in dominant fashion. Well there goes my picks for this week’s games, I will return with another blog post tomorrow, as I recover from this multiple wedding weekend.
Today is Labor Day, the day made to celebrate the hard work of “laborers” all over America. Labor Day is celebrated on the first Monday of September, at a time that is perfect for anyone needing a rest from their busy summer schedule. I love having the ability to enjoy a national day off, but unfortunately there are many people who have to work on this great holiday. There are some jobs that are completely essential to running this society correctly, so I understand the idea of having them work today, but many people in non essential jobs should definitely have this day as a break. The class of job that I am referring to is the dreaded retail job. Retail work is the way of life for almost 1/4th of Americans, and this number seems to be growing exponentially. There was a time that I worked retail for a while, and I can honestly say that retail work, while it does pay, may be the thing I actually detest the most. I remember working a few retail jobs while I was in college, and just enjoying the fact that I had some spending money, but when I worked a bit of retail after graduation, I knew that it was definitely not for me. There was a time when retail work was seen as a temporary solution, or as a job for teenagers, but in this economy it has become a staple for many people and families. I understand that many need to work retail, I just wish retail companies wouldn’t exploit their employees. On this day that marks the necessity of our country’s labor force, many people have to work extended hours in order to satisfy company goals. Retail workers today are not always treated very fairly, and they have very little job security. I know that all companies are not the same, and that retail was not built to be a long term career, but I find it absurd that so little has changed in the world of retail over the years. I have never been one to call for unionization, and I don’t think retail workers should even be in a union, I just think that more changes should be made to make work more fair for retail workers. Labor Day celebrates the work of our country’s citizens, hopefully one day, retail will be more regulated to allow for better treatment of their overworked workforce.
Labor Day weekend is the unofficial last weekend of the summer. While summer actually ends on September 22nd, this weekend it is definitely the beginning of the end of summer fun. With college students already back to school, and everyone else soon to follow, everywhere you go seems much less like summer in spite of the still tepid temperatures. Many people use Labor Day weekend as a time to barbecue and spend time with family, I on the other hand like to just sit back, relax, and reflect on the summer fun that has come and gone. I know I have stated before that I don’t like extreme temperatures, hot or cold, so I really enjoy the transitional periods between New York’s most extreme seasons. As the city transforms from a tropical play land into a more mellow fall gallery, I love to remember the adventures of the summer past. This summer was quite eventful and definitely enjoyable, but somehow it always seems like it was not long enough. When I look back on the activities of summer, I realize that while they all lasted a perfect amount of time, the memory can never truly recreate the enjoyment of each moment. Memories are always great, but it is most important to make sure that each moment is given an adequate amount of time to be cherished. Summer is just about gone, hopefully everyone had an enjoyable time, and took the time to actually enjoy it since, much like summer, moments come and go, but the memory is never the same as enjoying a moment in the present.
Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning do to do afterward.
Sometimes it is just easier to laugh than to let stress get the best of you. Over the past few months I have gone through situations in which I was stretched far beyond what I thought was possible, and in that time of stress, I have found that it is just a better response to laugh than to express the weight of the stress otherwise. It is not always easy to laugh during stressful periods, but when considering the alternative reactions, it is probably the easiest to explain. This quote is discussing human emotion and the odd and different ways we can all react to the same situations. When the author says he prefers to laugh rather than cry, since it is easier to clean up, I look at the phrase figuratively rather than as a literal statement. When I read this quote I imagine the mess that goes along with being upset, tears can be shed for sadness or for anger, and whenever they are shed they are usually accompanied by the actions of these emotions. I have done and said some terrible things when I was upset, and while they all do not need the most extensive cleanup, it is better to not have to deal with fixing a mess that was made due to a stress reaction emotion. I understand that laughter is not the easiest tactic to learn when it comes to dealing with stress, but once it is mastered, you will quickly find that it is not only the best way to face stress, but it can also be one of the best ways of relieving the pressure of stress.
Always focus on the front windshield and not the rearview mirror.
Today, I started a weekend road trip with my younger brother, so I have been in the car for some time. When riding in a car there is little to do other than talk, listen to music, and when you are the driver, focus of course. Taking a long drive made me think about this quote, but it can be equated to more than just being on the road. In life, there are many distractions, and while one could easily look back at the past, it is paramount to focus on what is ahead. In driving and in life, the ability to look back is part of going forward, and the rearview mirror is an important tool that allows us to look back while driving without losing focus on what is ahead. It is important to be mindful of the things in your past, but in order to achieve success and reach any goals, you must keep your “eyes on the prize” and pay attention to the goals you want to achieve.
One of my favorite things about getting out of the city is being able to look up at the evening sky, and see the free show of stars and constellations. I find stargazing to be incredibly peaceful, and oddly thought provoking. It is interesting to think about how these stars I am seeing are light years away, and the fact that some of them may already be dead and gone is amazing. Centuries ago early astronomers looked up to the stars and mapped out constellations based on the figures they saw in the stars. There are 88 constellations officially recognized by the IAU, but I am sure anyone can look up at the sky and find a formation that looks like something interesting. I like to treat stargazing like cloud watching, I like to try and see if I can make my own constellations out of the lights I’ve been given. Looking up at the stars is definitely an enjoyable way to relax after a long day, hopefully tonight the sky is clear enough to enjoy the show.
Insomnia is annoying, it is even worse when you actually have something important to do the next day. Insomnia is a disorder that causes difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep. Insomnia, in the way I am using the term, is just general sleeplessness. Every once in a while when I find myself awake in the middle of the night, it is difficult to get back to a level of sleep where I am comfortable. The interesting thing about non chronic insomnia is how it can be directly tied to the important tasks for the next day that it is now hampering. Often times the only thing actually keeping you awake is thoughts of the next day, and stress only makes things worse. Insomnia is the mind’s way of telling you it is not done plotting, and no matter how hard you try to fight the beast that is sleeplessness, it is not an easy battle to win. In my nights of insomnia I have found a few ways to combat the lack of sleep, but I feel the best solution to insomnia is learning to relax. While I continue to work on my relaxation techniques, I generally try to just bore myself to sleep, I tend to find a topic or activity that will put my mind to work without overstimulating it, eventually I always end up knocking out. Insomnia is a common problem but it doesn’t have to be debilitating, if you ever find yourself lying awake at night, just relax and know that worrying never fixed anyone’s issues, so it is best to just get to sleep.
I always wonder why people have so much hate for rainy days, there is nothing so terrible about seeing water falling from the sky. Rain is something that has been enjoyed and even revered for centuries, it signifies new beginnings and also growth. In recent times rain has been given a bad name due to the fact that it often comes with clouds and also because it usually means plans have been cancelled. Many sporting events, parades, and festive outings are either postponed or completely ruined by the presence of rain, but in my opinion, events can be enhanced by a little intervention form Mother Nature. I love rain, I mean, I wouldn’t want rain on my wedding day, but I just really enjoy walking around in the rain. I feel like the streets are more peaceful in the rain, especially in the city since people try to avoid it. On a rainy day I don’t feel mopey or down, I like to look at a rainy day as a chance to enjoy a pseudo private tour of a park or wherever I may be exploring for the day. Rain doesn’t always have to mean plans are ruined, as they say “when life gives you lemons…” It is best to look at rain as a chance to modify plans and probably explore new things. Today, on this rainy Sunday, rather than staying in, try taking a walk in the park, it is much more peaceful in the rain.
Today, as I was tossing around a baseball with my younger brother, we decided to take a break to enjoy the park. After a while of sitting and enjoying the serenity my brother told me he doesn’t exactly understand how people have one place of relaxation. I am one of these people who has a hard time relaxing so, I fully agreed with his query, but sitting on that grass and just resting made me realize that that park is my “place of relaxation.” I actually had nothing to think about or worry about other that catching the ball when it was thrown my way, it was quite peaceful. I understand what he meant by one place of relaxation, because for me, a place of relaxation is conditional. The same park we sat in this afternoon, could be filled with barbecues and loud birthday parties in a week’s time, so for places of relaxation it must fit what is needed at a specific moment. Some people love to fly fish in a quiet stream, and others may enjoy a loud concert, but both individuals have their place of rest, and that is the key to relaxation. I know that I won’t be able to always have a peaceful park to sit in and listen to birds chirping, but I now know that any time I can find this place, I have found relaxation.