Coming up with great ideas that are actually plausible can at times be difficult and definitely taxing, but actually following through with these plans takes more effort than just doing the legwork. I have often wondered about old ideas and plans I once had that have fallen by the wayside, and I think, what caused these ideas to die? Another question I have is can an idea actually die? Or is it just the ambition of the individual with the idea that dwindles. In order to answer these questions I had to look back at my unpursued ideas, in most cases they did not pan out due to my lack of research, and also due to the people I confided in for counsel. When you have a great idea it is important to find the right people to share the idea with, often times friends are the worst people to build on an idea with, unless it was a shared vision. An idea is like a nice quilt, if you want it you will begin to sew it together, others may want to share the quilt with you, so they will start sewing their own pieces into it, turning it into something you never dreamed it would be. I have never shared an idea with a friend without it eventually losing its relative purity, if you have ever written a book or story, you know the first thing friends do is give advice on what should be added or removed. The death of ideas can not be fully blamed on others, since an idea should be well groomed before presentation, and the presenter should be fully confident in their idea. Ideas die because they are fragile, and if an idea is not solid, it will not grow beyond a simple thought. The best way to keep an idea alive is to remember it, build on it, and research it. A well thought out idea can not easily die, and if an idea is nourished by its originator it can grow into something great.
Failure is the great adversary of success, but also quite possibly the greatest catalyst for reaching your goals. Robert F. Kennedy once said, “only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly,” and while success never seems close in times of failure, the ability to press on leads to life’s greatest victories. Whenever you find yourself reaching for a goal, there are many setbacks, these can be small or large, a setback isn’t considered failure unless you quit. As life progresses and responsibilities advance setbacks become more common, but with growth comes a natural adaptability to abrupt change. Most people take setbacks in stride, when you know what is important a small speed bump won’t send you off track, but there are also many who cannot deal with setbacks, those are the people who succumb to failure most often. People who cannot deal with setbacks usually stop taking risks, they usually end up failing at their long desired goals due to the fact that they stop trying. Robert F. Kennedy’s quote is most inspirational to anyone who faces multiple setbacks in life, it is a reminder to keep going no matter how risky it may seem, because the achievement will be much greater. Failure is not and should not be an option when looking to achieve your goals, it takes patience, and courage but those who consistently fight through their setbacks will find themselves the most successful.
What determines human expectation, and why are some people’s standards so high? If you have ever seen the reaction of a truly needy person who received a gift you will notice they show an extremely honest form of gratitude, these individuals cherish the gifts they are given more so than someone of “privilege.” People are most grateful for gifts they don’t expect, and even more for gifts they don’t believe they deserve. It is now common for people to expect gifts for Christmas, for their birthday, and for other milestones, it has become so common that many individuals will actually get upset if they are not given the gift they feel they deserve. It is funny how in this day and age an item freely given without having to ask has become a “deserved” item. A gift by definition is something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation, if a gift needs no compensation then it should not be expected as a compensation for growing a year older or making an achievement. I understand how a child’s birthday can be more of a celebration for the parents than it is for the child, but I feel like an effort needs to be made to taper expectation in some instances. I am not against giving gifts for special occasions, but I hope in the future when I have children, they are always grateful for what they are given no matter how much they have.