In life bad decisions seem to be an inevitability, while I personally can look back at many of my poor decisions and pinpoint where I went wrong, it is rare to find the flaws in a decision at the time it is being made. A couple of days ago I blogged about the poor decisions NFL players make during their time off and I specifically mentioned a player on my favorite team who made an extremely dangerous and foolish decision. Jason Pierre-Paul, a defensive lineman of the New York Giants, injured his hand while lighting fireworks this past weekend. Today it has come to light that the injury JPP suffered was way more serious than originally reported. Pierre-Paul’s hand injuries were substantial enough that they required the amputation of the index finger on his right hand. While I’m sure JPP never thought a little fun with fireworks would cost him a crucial part of one of his extremities, this will undoubtedly go down in his mind as the worst decision he has ever made, and a decision that quite possibly just cost him at least 60 million dollars. The funny thing about bad decisions is the fact that when we consciously make them, they usually don’t turn out that bad, what I mean is that if we know something is a foolish choice we seem to regret it the whole time. It is as if no matter what, we will always regret a bad decision, either during or after the fact. I know poor decisions are an inevitability, it is just a good idea to look at life from the point of view of the wise, and keep your choices on the smarter side.
Nothing ruins a good day like getting into a car accident. Today I got into a small fender bender, but since it was my first accident in all of my years of driving, it was pretty traumatic. I am glad nobody was hurt, and the damage was minimal, but just getting into an accident is very annoying. Dealing with insurance is one thing, but when you constantly run scenarios in your mind in which things could have turned out differently, it starts to really be a bother. I have blogged before about regret, and today was a real life example of how a small mistake can really effect your mood, even when you are not at fault. The part of a mistake or car accident that really nags is the thought that it could have been worst. I am thankful that there were no injuries, and that those terrible variables that could have lead to a more serious event where not in place, but I am still a bit upset over the situation. I guess the moral of the day is just to be thankful, any bad day could have always been worse. I will just have to learn from my mistakes, and be more careful while driving in the future.
Have you ever done something you just can not forgive yourself for? I briefly wrote about forgiveness in my post about bitterness and about how hard it is to do, it is even harder to forgive yourself for the wrongs you think you commit. I absolutely hate when I have wronged someone, even when they don’t even know, and I can honestly say regret is one of the most annoying emotions I have ever felt. I have even had situations when I have regretted things that were not even my fault. Regret is the sad feeling you get when you know you are wrong, it is that pressing feeling that pushes you to make the situation “right.” Regret is one of the feelings that makes us human, it gives us the ability to truly empathize with another and actually feel the pain you may have put them through. Regret, while extremely useful in social life, can also be harmful and misleading in some situations. Regret can be used against people by those who choose not to forgive. There are some individuals that can use regret to get others to hate themselves for things that were done in the past. People even find themselves in spirals of depression all due to regretting their former actions. The best way to compete with and even defeat regret is to find those you have wronged and sincerely apologize for your actions. Even when you have been forgiven you must then relax and take the time to forgive yourself. If you ever find yourself in a place of regret for something you have once done remember this phrase, you are human and you will make mistakes, mistakes do not define who you are, so do not allow your past mistakes to define your future actions.