What a difference a year can make. About a year ago, I decided to write a blog post daily. While it has not always been easy to think up topics, I have definitely learned and expanded my interests during this exercise. I am not sure if I will continue this blog next year or start a new one, but I will definitely continue writing. Often times people wonder about tomorrow, but they never actually think about how long it takes to actually get to tomorrow. Our days can be broken down into hours, minutes, and seconds, and with each second we have a chance to make a change that we want to see for tomorrow. In order to make the future we want to see tomorrow, we must take a minute to begin working on the hour that will become the day of tomorrow. Each day of this year, as short as they seemed, added up to make the year that we are currently ending. As I look back on this year, I can see plans that blossomed well and others that fizzled out, and I have realized that the only difference between the two is the time that was put into preparation and execution. The plans that turned out well were well prepared and the others were thrown together foolishly. In the year 2016, I am going to make sure that I use the time that I have much more wisely, every second counts and I will treat every second like a fraction of my day rather than time to be wasted. This year went by quickly, as does every year, but that is no reason to let another second pass on working towards your goals and dreams. I am excited for this new year, not because it is new, but because I get another year to grow and improve the world that I live in. Happy New Year everyone! Thanks for reading along throughout the year.
As the new year quickly approaches, I have found myself thinking about my triumphs and mistakes of the past year. It is always an interesting experience to look at your own life and make assessments on where things could have been done differently, but it is never fun to regret chances that were squandered. Looking over the past year I can honestly say that I am not dissatisfied with any of the decisions I made, however I can see areas in which more planning should have been taken into effect. The year 2015 was a year of “safety” for me, I really didn’t take as many risks as I usually do, and I found this year to be somewhat boring. I don’t necessarily think risks need to be taken to have excitement, but when things seem mundane they could represent a lack of planning. I know that most things in life cannot be planned, and that the plans of men often go awry, but when plans do go off without a hitch they usually don’t end up being boring. I have decided that while I know I can not control everything that comes my way, I will make a solid action plan for the major accomplishments I plan to see through in the year 2016. The year is nearly over and everything from the past is now firmly part of memory, the best and only thing anyone can do going forward is to make sure the mistakes of the past are not repeated and the plans of the future are well plotted out. I am eager to see the new things that 2016 will bring, hopefully my plans don’t falter and I won’t be seeing a repeat of the mistakes of yesterday in the story of tomorrow.
Body language is a very interesting part of human interaction, and in my opinion it is the most important. Human Communication can be split into verbal and nonverbal interactions, and body language can often tell much more than verbal communication. During a conversation there are cues that allow the participants to understand how to properly proceed, often times these cues are nonverbal, and it is up to the people in the conversation to decipher the meanings of the body language. Many people believe that conversations are mostly verbal, but it is important to look at body language as it often tells more of a story than spoken words. The reason I like to look closely at body language is because the body can not easily lie, it is easy for someone to forgo telling the truth, but in order to fake body language a person must train their body to do the opposite of how they actually feel. It is not easy to understand body language, and body language alone can not tell the full story of an individual’s motives, but when you are able to connect verbal and nonverbal cues you can get a wider picture of the actual reason for each interaction. Humans are quite interesting, we are possibly the only creatures that are able to purposely hide the motives of our communications, while still giving ourselves away with actions. The best way to effectively interact with others is to understand that we don’t speak with words alone, body language is an important aspect of communication that needs to be taken into consideration whenever responding to or starting any conversation.
A pier is a disappointed bridge.
― Julian Barnes, Flaubert’s Parrot
I really enjoy this quote, it is a bit nonsensical but it gets an interesting point across if it is taken a certain way. A pier looks like an unfinished bridge, and something that is unfinished is usually a disappointment. The thing about a pier is that it was made to serve a purpose, it may not go as far as a bridge but that is because it isn’t meant to get you across the pond, it is meant to give a path to a boat. This quote can be seen in two different ways, on the one hand the pier can be a task or a goal, if you set out to complete a bridge and it ends up as a pier, then you will definitely be disappointed no mater what. On the other hand the pier can be seen as a person, we may have our aspirations to be a bridge, but if we end up as a pier we would be so disappointed that we would fail to realize that there is a greater purpose to a pier than to a bridge. A bridge has the ability to get a person or a vehicle to the other side, then its job is complete, but a pier can open up the entire world. A ship at a pier in a large enough body of water can connect to another pier that is miles away, far beyond the reaches of even the longest bridge, so even the disappointment of a pier can be much more than theof a success of a bridge. Life is full of successes and disappointments, but as long as you keep a level head and stick to the plan, even the biggest of disappointments can prove to be doorways to greater success.
Do or do not. There is no try.
This week is unofficially being known as Star Wars Week. The seventh film in the storied Star Wars franchise will be released on Thursday night, and fans have already been lining up to watch it for weeks. I plan to watch the movie this week, so I will save specific movie talk for my review later on. I want to focus today on this quote from Episode V made by Yoda. “Do or do not, there is no try,” Yoda made this phrase when Luke was asked to do something that seemed impossible, and he responded with “I’ll try.” I know this is just a movie but I have said before how much I dislike the term “at least you tried,” saying that you will try is almost acknowledging that you feel like you can’t succeed. “Do or do not,” is the best way to approach any of life’s challenges, if there is a gap to cross, do it or don’t, because trying just isn’t putting enough effort into it. When you try, you give room for failure so you make provisions for a way back to safety, not to say that planning isn’t important, but planning is part of doing. To try is a half hearted and unplanned attempt, to do is a process that is set up for completion. Nothing comes easy in life no matter how it seems, it is important to fully pursue the things that will make you happy and lead to the success you expect to receive. If you plan to get anywhere do it or don’t do it, there really can not be room for a try.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
― Lao Tzu
Professing your love for someone is definitely a courageous action, it takes all of your resolve to be able to lay your heart on the line in hopes that the feelings you have will be reciprocated. It is no easier to profess your love in a wedding setting, as now you have the pressure of the festivities to worry about as well. I have been to three weddings already this year, and this year of weddings will finally come to its conclusion today as I will attend my fourth of the year as a guest. Throughout all of the weddings I have attended, as different as they have been, the one commonality is the love the bride and groom have shared. The new families I have watched forming fully exemplify the words of this quote, they are both strengthened by their love, and given the courage to profess it in front of friends and family. Every one of the couples were different, and some seemed more nervous than others, but all of them were able to show how much they care for their new spouse. I know love can be shown in situations other than in marriage, but being a part of seeing something new form is an incredible experience. I wish all the love and favor to these wonderful marriages, may they be fruitful and everlasting.
It is very important to take risks from time to time. There is no safety in a “sure thing,” because as many people have learned throughout time, a failed sure thing can often lead to more disappointment than a risk. Taking a risk is always hard, and those who take risks are always doubted, but the success of one risk can make up for the failures of a million tries. I like to liken risk taking to a basketball game, the higher the risk of the shot the greater the reward, but a failed “easy” shot yields the same result as a failed three pointer. In my opinion, the best way to consider risk taking is to remember that the outcome of failure is no different, but the reward of success is much more splendid. To be honest, I feel as though I have taken far too few risks in my life. I know that I have not been around that long, but I have had my fair share of failures, and it seems like my failures have pushed me to “play it safe” far too often. Playing it safe can still get you where you want to be, but taking risks is what makes life a bit more colorful. I will most definitely be taking more risks in the near future. I know that it is impossible to plan out risks that will be taken, but if you try and take several “calculated risks” per year, you will find yourself extremely satisfied with the results of your successes.
I was never one to get too excited over meeting a celebrity. I have found that I generally like to give people their space rather than to ask for a photo or an autograph, but I seem to be in the minority in that aspect. Today, I noticed that a former Major League Baseball player works out at the same gym as me, and instead of bothering him to sign my shoes or take a photo, I just allowed him to work out in peace. Living in New York I have had multiple run ins with people who would be considered famous, and while the level of fame of these individuals varies, I imagine they all value privacy as much as the rest of us. I am not trying to say I have never been “star struck,” but even when I was a child who was meeting his favorite athlete, I realized that they were just as human as myself. When I noticed the athletes who I regularly watched play on television or from the crowd were not much taller than my father, I started to see them differently. I realized that these people were not the larger than life figures that I once thought they were, and that they were just ordinary people with some extraordinary talents. It may seem strange, but I have actually seen some “famous” individuals who seemed to be expecting to be approached, but were shocked that everyone was busy with their own lives rather than fussing about them. I know that everybody is different, and that many of these celebrities may actually enjoy the attention, but I will continue to treat them the same way I expect to be treated when I am a stranger just trying to enjoy my day.
On this day, as it is “raining cats and dogs” here in the city, I started thinking about which pet is actually the better option. I know the Internet is obsessed with cats, and they can come off as pretty cute, but dogs have been regularly labeled as “man’s best friend.” I have never actually had a pet other than a small creature such as a fish or a hamster, but I have always been drawn more to dogs than cats. I guess my issue with cats is their air of indifference. Cats are great pets for people who have little space, but they seem to walk around like they own the place, and they often ignore the wishes of their owners. I know that cats can be affectionate at times, but I am used to dealing with cats that really don’t care much for people, unless food is involved. Dogs don’t come problem free, they must be trained well to avoid in home mishaps, and they can be too clingy at times. If a dog is not trained well it could be big trouble for its owner, as some poorly trained dogs have been known to bite strangers and ruin important documents. Even though there are negatives to both dogs and cats, the positives of well trained pet ownership far outweigh the negatives. To be honest I don’t think one is better than the other when it comes to cats and dogs, each of these creatures has their separate perks, but they are both known for being solid companions to their owners when they need them most. The great debate of cat or dog has no clear winner, and since it is so hard to look at this topic objectively, I think it is time for us to realize that these animals are equally as qualified to be the perfect pet.
I often find myself thinking about the future, and I’m sure I’m not the only one. It is interesting that everyone has an idea of how the future looks, but we rarely ever consider the extreme changes that could occur between the present and the future. I understand that nobody wants to think about the bad, and that our wishes for the future are often only positive, but change is not always bad. The fact of the matter is things change, and we can never correctly predict tomorrow from the vantage point we stand on today. The human’s ability to plan and visualize for the future is rare, but flawed. Many animals can store up resources for later, and even remember where they left these resources but none have as intricate a thought process about the future as humans do. The flaw in our ability to plan comes with the fact that we don’t plan well for what we don’t expect, but if everything was expected, there would be no benefit to planning. It is important to plan, but the most important thing is to remember that things change. What was normal yesterday is now no longer in existence, so it seems like we may have to work on adaptation rather than on planning since we can not perceive the future. In order to properly plan for the future we have to learn to accept change and to expect the unexpected. I will continue to plan for and think about the future even though my plans and thoughts may be only a past dream when the future actually comes around.